Can questions to yourself help you overcome your fears of failure? YES…
..and the reason why is that asking your self the right questions can lead to a healthier and more productive way of thinking. A common theme you will find in people managing their careers, is that they manage the downside versus the upside of their decisions which we will discuss more fully on my next blog post. Terri Cole – CEO, Live Fearless and Free; transformation coach and licensed therapist, shared an interesting write upon the topic of Reframing Your Fear of Failure.
She raised a very powerful revelation: Fear of failure has one thing in common with all of our other fears. It is a feeling and not a fact. Isn’t this empowering? It is saying that our biggest fears comes from what we feel will possibly happen to us in the future. We don’t fear what we experience today, because we are experiencing it. Reality always takes over from fear. Because we are there and dealing with it.
We find problems we fear are always less than what we actually experience should that fear materialize.
Terri raised 5 questions to help us better rationalize our fears, modify our thinking about a problem and actually deal with a more realistic assessment of risks.
1. How is your fear of failure holding you back?
2. What would life be like if you did not have this fear?
3. Who are you afraid of disappointing if you fail?
4. How strong is your desire to release this fear?
5. If there were one step you could take to overcome this fear, what would it be?
Action of the Day
Go through these 5 questions. Be really honest with yourself. Your ability to pursue your ultimate career objectives are most likely dependent on your ability to address any fears of failure you have. I found these questions exhilarating and reinforcing my desire to manage the upside of opportunities versus the downside of risk taking.
Quote of the Day
” You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt….famous first lady to President Franklin D. Roosevelt
It would be great if you could share your thoughts: What ways to deal with fear has worked for you?